The difference between Boudoir, Kink and Erotica

 people may not know the difference between Boudoir, kink and erotica so I wanted to discuss the nuances of them. 

Boudoir - the images captured for boudoir can vary in the level of sexiness and nudity. The level of these is always based on the client's preference. Some people want to be in some kind of clothing the whole session with a portion of their body covered at all times, either with lingerie, shirt, dress, blanket/sheets etc.. and some people want to get fully nude and of course there is the mix. Most people will be a mix and will do an implied or partial nude with blanket/sheet. 

Bouidoir even for couples shoots have no sex involoved and rarely is there even kissing if women are in the shoot because of makeup getting messed up. With couples sometimes if there is a woman/man set up the woman may be nude but the man will still have his undies on because there is no penetration of digits of any kind. It’s all an implied sexual feel. 

The shoot can for sure still be steamy and can tell a story in the body language. 

I tend to shoot more in a voyeuristic fashion to allude to the feel of the viewer of the images having come across the person as they passed by the room. Some people can flirt with the camera very well and if they do then I will have them look at the camera more often. However many people have a challenge with it so we find other ways for them to look coy, sexy, vulnerable. 

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Kink - shoots for kink will tend to flow from a variety of BDSM areas. There are SSSOOO many kinks out there that I can not list them all. Many people however are not necessarily into the BDSM lifestyle but like the idea of things like:

• Cuffs on wrists and ankles
• Collar with or without a chain
• Ball gags
• Nipple clamps
• Masks/costumes
• Body jewelry/devices that accentuates genital areas
• Impact items like floggers, canes, whips, paddles
• Wax
• Harnesses 
• Spreader bar
• Sex swing (I plan to get one by 2022)
• Stripper pole (I plan to get one by 2022)
• Rope 
• Electric play
• Sensation play which can include almost anything being run along the body
• Food

Adding in these items does not mean that you are into this kind of play but like the look of it and would like images like that for your own reasons. Or you could be curious and want to test it out in an environment that isn't the bedroom. I offer some props to use and am working with a leather worker to get some custom pieces made in 2021. 
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Kink shoots can be a bit more risque and depending on what the client wants done additional waivers may need to be signed as consent to what will be taking place either by themselves or with a partner. There is a level of trust with many of these kinks which I respect and observe. ​

Erotica - My erotica shoots start off doing normal boudoir that leads to a more serious flirty nature and then to sex. This can be with a single person self pleasuring in whatever fashion they want, to a couple doing various forms of sex (oral, penetration with toys, fingers/hands, genitals) and of course groups doing all the things above. 

Erotica shoots can have a range of shots being done from focusing on up close and personal detail shots of body parts, to wide shots that showcase all that is happening. When the erotica portion starts I will have an idea already (from discussing with the client/s in advance and the day of) of what they are wanting to achieve from the shoot. The boudoir portion has likely led them to a point of high desire and they are ready to make things happen. So when I say ‘go for it’ I let them do what they want and am that fly on the wall and move around them to get the shots. It can happen that I may ask them to pause or slightly shift, but it’s rare. I want them to feel like they are in their bubble as much as possible. 

I have found that a lot of photographers in my industry won’t shoot erotica. It’s something they don’t feel comfortable with for many reasons, which I can respect. I love being open about sex and am very body and sex positive. Being able to capture moments for cleint/s that allow them to see themselves in a sexy new light is inspiring. I want them to yearn for the other person when they see the images and get that feeling in their gut that makes them want to rush over and devour their partner all over again. 

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My goal personally is to be shooting boudoir kink and erotica in luxury destinations all over the world. Working with sex and couples thereapists who to retreats, swinger resorts, clubs and hotels and anyone else who may be interested in having me be an add on to their event. 

Shooting erotica in Colorado Springs is a great location because it’s central to the state and an easy drive for many people even if they fly into Denver.

​So what are you waiting for? Reach out and book your preferred session today!